The Blessing of Navigating Grief
Welcome to Navigating Grief, A Mother's Manual For Loss. Each week
we will post exerps from the manual, ebook or thoughts to ponder. We hope you will stop in often and that you will find some
measure of comfort here.
Navigating Grief
through the eye's of the Champion of Grief
Herself, Rev. Betty
The Journey Without Them:
From the Book Navigating Grief,
A Mother's Manual For Loss
I was not a ready candidate for therapy that first year without them. My emotions/moods
would spring-board like a ball inside a pinball machine. I could not have evaluated a recipe for hot tea let alone express
how I was dealing with my Grief. I did not comprehend what Loss meant nor how it was going to affect me. I must confess that
for me Grief was my "Badge of Honor". I coveted my Grief. Grief was my shroud. She was my sweet comforter. She was
my buffer from reality. Ah! but she was also like a jealous woman. Grief does not want to share control of your State of Being.
She would carry me along on a roller-coaster through Hades. But all was not lost. Even though emotionally I was frozen
in time, I was breathing, sometimes even thinking rationally. My heart continued to beat, though often I tried to will it
to stop. Then a supporter I had met threw me a life-line in a stormy sea. It wasn't just her words to me. It was everything
about her. As she spoke I swear to you she looked like an angel. For a flash I thought I were dead. Her words seemed to come
from deep inside a heart of understanding and empathy. I felt tremendous love for her. In retrospect I truely believe that
she was my angel. Her words to me were life altering she said, "you are asking the wrong questions of God"
I
responded, "I beg your pardon"? She continued, "you are asking God, Why you? Why your children?
I countered,
"wouldn't you" "Yes, I suppose I would. But this is about you. If you are truly seeking answers try asking
God, Why not me. What have I contributed to the world that is so divine in Goodness that I would be exempt from tragedy".
I was floored by her audacity. Then I considered her challenge and I became ashamed of my self-absorption and was quite amazed
at my epiphany. My out-look was forever altered. True Healing had been allowed to manifest. I began to receive God's Blessing
of Healing. All that is required of me is that I share with the world the Legacy of Love my children fostered in me. This
manual is part of that Legacy. I pray for your Blessing of surrender to reality without them and God's Gift of Healing
Activity: If you are grieving for someone
perhaps this little diversionary activity will in some small way bring you comfort. Take the challenge from an Angel ask God
"Why not you" and ask yourself what you have contributed to the world that was so divine that you would be
exempt from tragedy.
Try it. You may find yourself surprised at how you might feel. Explore
the thought.
And open yourself to the Blessing of Healing
